My entry into the field of sexuality education was a volunteer job as a rape crisis counselor, a position that I held for two years right after I graduated from college. I knew that I wanted to do some kind of work related to sexual health, and the most pressing issue seemed to me to be the threat of violence and shame that loomed over my sense of sexual self-determination as a young woman. Looking back on this, I wish that I had lived in a world where sex was not automatically linked in my mind with...

Apparently people do more in the Bayshore Park N Ride lot than just wait for busess...

I really enjoy your column and have a question. Do you have any suggestions on how to perform oral sex well? This is a short question that's going to get a long answer-a two-part answer, in fact. Since you didn't specify a particular gender in your question, I'll talk about performing oral sex on men in this column, and discuss oral sex on women in a future column...

If your family participates in the long-standing tradition of seeing a movie and eating at a Chinese restaurant on Christmas day, you may have played the familiar game where you sex up the predictions received in fortune cookies by adding "in bed" to the end of the fortune. When you're making your list of New Year's resolutions this week, I strongly urge you to do the same thing. Like any other area of your life, your sex life benefits from regular appraisal and thoughtful commitment to improvement. Below are some sex-filled add-ons to common resolutions...

My wife and I met when she was 14 and I was 16. For the past 26 years we have had an open marriage-as long as there were no secrets. I just found out (through her unattended e-mail) that she has a secret boyfriend. I know this person, and he knows of our agreement. She said she didn't tell me because it was a one-time fling, and now they just e-mail or talk on the phone. But some of the e-mails (18 months' worth) were very hard for me to stomach. I have demanded she end this relationship. She says she has, but I still...

National Coming Out Day occurred Oct. 11. This day, recognized by schools and community organizations across the country, encourages gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender and queer people to share and celebrate their identities. National Coming Out Day was first observed in 1988. A lot has happened in 20 years.

My girlfriend of three months asked me how many women I had had sex with. I told her three, including her. When I asked her the same question, she said, “Eight, nine…no, 10.” At other times, she has told me that she had been with six, including me. I know of five major boyfriends before me. The different answers...

This week’s question deals with a familiar scenario: what to do when you haven’t been completely honest with a long-term partner and want to come clean. You’re right that there are many other bisexual men (and women) in your circumstance, but this dilemma can happen with other sexual situations too—I’ve heard from women who have faked orgasms for years and can’t figure out how to bring this up with their partners . . .

Last week, I received a call from a free-lance writer working on an article for a national magazine. Her editor had instructed her to contact owners of sex toy stores across the country to gather tales of the newest, juiciest and most titillating trends that we were seeing among our customers.

Welcome to SEXpress, the Shepherd Express’ new sex advice column. As your lovely hostess, I’ll be answering your questions, interviewing nationally known sexperts as they travel through our city, and sharing my thoughts about all things sex related. How did I get this plum job, you ask? Well, I’ve worked as a sexuality educator for more than a decade—on college campuses, in community organizations, in state agencies and in congregations.