Express Milwaukee - SEXPress http://expressmilwaukee.com/articles.sec-258-1-sexpress.html Wed, 01 Oct 2014 00:00:00 EDT en hourly 1 My Partner Has HPV. Should We Wait to Have Sex? http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-24088-my-partner-has-hpv-should-we-wait-to-have-sex.html I have been talking to this girl for several months. I really like her and want to continue to see her. We have not yet had sex; she has told me that she has HPV, and she and I have been hesitant about going through with it. She is scared I will get infected, and I am little worried myself. She]]> Getting More Sex in a Long-Term Relationship http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-24046-getting-more-sex-in-a-long-term-relationship.html How do I initiate more “knocking the boots” in an eight-year relationship? Sex in a long-term relationship typically has a different pace and feel from sex in a new relationship. During those heady early days with a new partner, levels]]> Face-to-Face Anal Sex http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-24004-face-to-face-anal-sex.html Thinking About Erectile Dysfunction Medication? http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-23948-thinking-about-erectile-dysfunction-medication.html I am a 50-year-old male, married twice. Sex was always short but sweet, 10 minutes or so. I’m currently seeing someone new. I rarely have sex twice in a short period of time because I can’t get another erection, but what’s really bothersome is that I worry about losing my erection during the]]> Silent Scream: When Orgasms Don't Make Any Noise http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-23912-silent-scream-when-orgasms-dont-make-any-noise.html I’ve performed oral sex on many women. All but a few have reached climax. Normally they will buck and squirm, and I feel contractions in their vagina and anus. Often there are moans, heavy breathing and perhaps screaming]]> Height Difference http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-23855-height-difference.html I’m 4-foot-11, and I had sexual intercourse with a man who was 6-foot-7. I found that the sex we had was hard for me to deal with when it came to the positions that we did. I’ve always thought that my height is the problem in my relationships. What are the perfect sex positions for petite ]]> Overcoming the Awkward: Talking About Sex With a Partner http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-23834-overcoming-the-awkward-talking-about-sex-with-a-partner.html Every year, I am part of a panel of “sexperts” at a national college peer education conference. Our goal: to answer as many anonymous sex questions as possible in 60 minutes. We always receive a fair number of questions on the]]> Dealing With Cramps During Bondage http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-23786-dealing-with-cramps-during-bondage.html  What do people do about leg or arm cramps when bound? This is a problem for us. Nothing like a muscle cramp to cut short a good play session. Since different things work for different people, I collected answers to your question

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I Want to Have an Orgasm During Sex With My Partner http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-23768-i-want-to-have-an-orgasm-during-sex-with-my-partner.html  I’ve been quite worried lately about my sex life with my partner. He’s great, but I can’t seem to get off. I have many times before, but only with myself and from stimulating the clitoris. Could you give us some tips on how I can actually have the “Big O” with my partner

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What Does It Mean If I Lose My Erection During Sex? http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-23732-what-does-it-mean-if-i-lose-my-erection-during-sex.html  I’m a 28-year-old virgin (technically). Last evening, I tried having sex for the first time and maintained a decent erection throughout the oral play. However, as soon as my penis went inside her vagina, I lost the erection. I’m a hopeless romantic at heart, but when it comes to sex, I’m such a

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How Common Are Male Chastity Devices? http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-23691-how-common-are-male-chastity-devices.html  Laura, how prevalent are male chastity devices among heterosexual partners? Tease and denial seems exciting, but are people really purchasing devices for long-term denial? What have you seen or heard?

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Curious About Electric Play? Some Reasons You Might Want to Try It http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-23650-curious-about-electric-play-some-reasons-you-might-want-to-try-it.html  Sunny Megatron and Ken Melvoin-Berg visited the Tool Shed a while back to teach their popular class ZAP! Electric Play, which covers toys that use electricity for stimulation, such as neon wands, violet wands and TENS units. These items were originally designed to improve physical or

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In Search of Smaller Condoms http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-23617-in-search-of-smaller-condoms.html Your Doctor Might Not Know As Much About Sex As You Think http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-23584-your-doctor-might-not-know-as-much-about-sex-as-you-think.html  At a recent conference on women’s health, several clinicians mentioned to me how little training they received about sex. You can get through medical school and your

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Numbing Lubricants: A Terrible Product, or the MOST Terrible Product? http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-23543-numbing-lubricants-a-terrible-product-or-the-most-terrible-product.html  I have a question about using Anal Eaze to numb my girlfriend’s anal region and then proceeding to have sex. I understand that Anal Eaze will numb everything that it is applied to, but are there any other consequences? My girlfriend enjoys it when I insert my tongue in the hole as well as

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How Effective Is Withdrawal at Preventing Pregnancy? http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-23296-how-effective-is-withdrawal-at-preventing-pregnancy.html  My girlfriend and I have been having sex for about five months, and I’ve used a condom about three times out of all the times we’ve had sex. I must be really good at pulling out because she isn’t pregnant yet. What are the chances she gets pregnant if we keep this up?

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Loss of Sexual Desire and Lubrication http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-23255-loss-of-sexual-desire-and-lubrication.html  I’m 18. I can no longer get attracted to sex like I used to. I am on birth control and my own natural vaginal lubrication is hard to accumulate, if I can get that to happen at all. I’m lost on looking for medications for this problem

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I Have Boundary Issues—How Can I Safely Explore Kinky Play? http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-23177-i-have-boundary-issues%25E2%2580%2594how-can-i-safely-explore-kinky-play.html  What would you suggest for someone who has anxiety, fear of boundaries being broken and unstable self-esteem, but is interested in being a sub in kinky play (not necessarily sexual)?

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I Don’t Enjoy Receiving Oral Sex http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-23131-i-don%25E2%2580%2599t-enjoy-receiving-oral-sex.html  Is it possible for a female to not enjoy oral sex [performed] on her, or is he just doing it wrong? It’s possible that either one or both of these things are true—receiving oral sex could just not be your thing, your partner could need to practice some oral sex

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I Can’t Maintain an Erection During Vaginal Sex http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-23099-i-can%25E2%2580%2599t-maintain-an-erection-during-vaginal-sex.html  My wife and I were not into vaginal sex for almost a year now and were enjoying oral sex and masturbating for each other. We both felt satisfied with this routine, but recently thought of starting a family. We tried to have intercourse

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How Do I Tell A New Sexual Partner That I Have Herpes? http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-23054-how-do-i-tell-a-new-sexual-partner-that-i-have-herpes.html  Last week, I wrote about the CatalystCon panel “Living with an STI”. I got a chance to talk further with Ashley Manta, one of the sexuality educators who helped organize the panel, about what inspired her to do so and her advice on how to talk to sexual partners about having herpes

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'Living with an STI' - Reflections on a CatalystCon Workshop http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-22974-living-with-an-sti-reflections-on-a-catalystcon-workshop.html  Earlier this month, I attended CatalystCon East 2014 in Arlington, Va. My March 20 column contained some Catalyst-inspired musings on sex, ability and aging. This week, I want to reflect on another great conference

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Think Outside the Box - How redefining sex benefits everyone http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-22873-think-outside-the-box-how-redefining-sex-benefits-everyone.html Milwaukee’s Dezjórn Gauthier Featured in Barneys New York Campaign http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-22829-milwaukee%25E2%2580%2599s-dezjorn-gauthier-featured-in-barneys-new-york-campaign.html  You may have read coverage in Vogue and Vanity Fair about Brothers, Sisters, Sons & Daughters, the groundbreaking Spring 2014 fashion campaign by Barneys New York that featured 17 transgender models photographed by Bruce Weber. But did you know that one of those models hails from Milwaukee?

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Breastfeeding and Nipple Clamps http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-22765-breastfeeding-and-nipple-clamps.html  Will nipple clips affect my wife’s ability to nurse our future child? I am not aware of any research or anecdotal information that indicates that safe, short-term use of nipple clamps interferes with the ability to successfully breastfeed in the future. I wrote a column in response to a similar question a few years back

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Help! My Lube Is Burning Me http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-22729-help_-my-lube-is-burning-me.html  Why can’t I find a lubricant that is paraben- and glycerin-free, as well as aloe? They are burning and irritate me. I get lots of questions about lubricant. It’s supposed to make sex more pleasurable, yet it can also cause so many problems—burning sensations, irritation

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Create Some Magic with the Magic Wand http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-22689-create-some-magic-with-the-magic-wand.html  I recently purchased the Magic Wand vibrator to use primarily on my wife. She reaches intense orgasms, but only externally. Is there anything to the G-spot? If so, will using an attachment on the Magic Wand help? If an attachment would help, which would you recommend?

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Hate Valentine’s Day? You’re Not Alone http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-22650-hate-valentine%25E2%2580%2599s-day-you%25E2%2580%2599re-not-alone.html  This column is for all the people who are not involved in a monogamous romantic relationship with the potential for marriage (if that hasn’t happened already). It’s for people who are not in a relationship at all, whether happily or unhappily. It’s for people who are hooking up, dating, friends-with-benefits or in other

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Romance Novels and Frenemies - Do pop culture relationships influence us in real life? http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-22613-romance-novels-and-frenemies-do-pop-culture-relationships-influence-us-in-real-life.html  While walking through our latest snowstorm, I was listening to Frenemies, http://veritypodcast.wordpress.com/2014/01/29/verity-episode-34-frenemies/ the Jan. 29 podcast from “Verity!” (“six women talk all things ‘Doctor

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Sex With a New Partner Causes UTIs and Yeast Infections—Help! http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-22576-sex-with-a-new-partner-causes-utis-and-yeast-infections%25E2%2580%2594help_.html With a new boyfriend and a newly found hunger for sex, I find I’m getting more UTIs and yeast infections. I’m trying to use all the advice I’ve researched and recommendations from my doc, like peeing after sex. Please give me some insight

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