Express Milwaukee - SEXPress http://expressmilwaukee.com/articles.sec-258-1-sexpress.html Thu, 31 Jul 2014 00:00:00 EDT en hourly 1 What Does It Mean If I Lose My Erection During Sex? http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-23732-what-does-it-mean-if-i-lose-my-erection-during-sex.html  I’m a 28-year-old virgin (technically). Last evening, I tried having sex for the first time and maintained a decent erection throughout the oral play. However, as soon as my penis went inside her vagina, I lost the erection. I’m a hopeless romantic at heart, but when it comes to sex, I’m such a

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How Common Are Male Chastity Devices? http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-23691-how-common-are-male-chastity-devices.html  Laura, how prevalent are male chastity devices among heterosexual partners? Tease and denial seems exciting, but are people really purchasing devices for long-term denial? What have you seen or heard?

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Curious About Electric Play? Some Reasons You Might Want to Try It http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-23650-curious-about-electric-play-some-reasons-you-might-want-to-try-it.html  Sunny Megatron and Ken Melvoin-Berg visited the Tool Shed a while back to teach their popular class ZAP! Electric Play, which covers toys that use electricity for stimulation, such as neon wands, violet wands and TENS units. These items were originally designed to improve physical or

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In Search of Smaller Condoms http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-23617-in-search-of-smaller-condoms.html Your Doctor Might Not Know As Much About Sex As You Think http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-23584-your-doctor-might-not-know-as-much-about-sex-as-you-think.html  At a recent conference on women’s health, several clinicians mentioned to me how little training they received about sex. You can get through medical school and your

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Numbing Lubricants: A Terrible Product, or the MOST Terrible Product? http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-23543-numbing-lubricants-a-terrible-product-or-the-most-terrible-product.html  I have a question about using Anal Eaze to numb my girlfriend’s anal region and then proceeding to have sex. I understand that Anal Eaze will numb everything that it is applied to, but are there any other consequences? My girlfriend enjoys it when I insert my tongue in the hole as well as

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How Effective Is Withdrawal at Preventing Pregnancy? http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-23296-how-effective-is-withdrawal-at-preventing-pregnancy.html  My girlfriend and I have been having sex for about five months, and I’ve used a condom about three times out of all the times we’ve had sex. I must be really good at pulling out because she isn’t pregnant yet. What are the chances she gets pregnant if we keep this up?

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Loss of Sexual Desire and Lubrication http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-23255-loss-of-sexual-desire-and-lubrication.html  I’m 18. I can no longer get attracted to sex like I used to. I am on birth control and my own natural vaginal lubrication is hard to accumulate, if I can get that to happen at all. I’m lost on looking for medications for this problem

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I Have Boundary Issues—How Can I Safely Explore Kinky Play? http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-23177-i-have-boundary-issues%25E2%2580%2594how-can-i-safely-explore-kinky-play.html  What would you suggest for someone who has anxiety, fear of boundaries being broken and unstable self-esteem, but is interested in being a sub in kinky play (not necessarily sexual)?

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I Don’t Enjoy Receiving Oral Sex http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-23131-i-don%25E2%2580%2599t-enjoy-receiving-oral-sex.html  Is it possible for a female to not enjoy oral sex [performed] on her, or is he just doing it wrong? It’s possible that either one or both of these things are true—receiving oral sex could just not be your thing, your partner could need to practice some oral sex

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I Can’t Maintain an Erection During Vaginal Sex http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-23099-i-can%25E2%2580%2599t-maintain-an-erection-during-vaginal-sex.html  My wife and I were not into vaginal sex for almost a year now and were enjoying oral sex and masturbating for each other. We both felt satisfied with this routine, but recently thought of starting a family. We tried to have intercourse

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How Do I Tell A New Sexual Partner That I Have Herpes? http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-23054-how-do-i-tell-a-new-sexual-partner-that-i-have-herpes.html  Last week, I wrote about the CatalystCon panel “Living with an STI”. I got a chance to talk further with Ashley Manta, one of the sexuality educators who helped organize the panel, about what inspired her to do so and her advice on how to talk to sexual partners about having herpes

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'Living with an STI' - Reflections on a CatalystCon Workshop http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-22974-living-with-an-sti-reflections-on-a-catalystcon-workshop.html  Earlier this month, I attended CatalystCon East 2014 in Arlington, Va. My March 20 column contained some Catalyst-inspired musings on sex, ability and aging. This week, I want to reflect on another great conference

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Think Outside the Box - How redefining sex benefits everyone http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-22873-think-outside-the-box-how-redefining-sex-benefits-everyone.html Milwaukee’s Dezjórn Gauthier Featured in Barneys New York Campaign http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-22829-milwaukee%25E2%2580%2599s-dezjorn-gauthier-featured-in-barneys-new-york-campaign.html  You may have read coverage in Vogue and Vanity Fair about Brothers, Sisters, Sons & Daughters, the groundbreaking Spring 2014 fashion campaign by Barneys New York that featured 17 transgender models photographed by Bruce Weber. But did you know that one of those models hails from Milwaukee?

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Breastfeeding and Nipple Clamps http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-22765-breastfeeding-and-nipple-clamps.html  Will nipple clips affect my wife’s ability to nurse our future child? I am not aware of any research or anecdotal information that indicates that safe, short-term use of nipple clamps interferes with the ability to successfully breastfeed in the future. I wrote a column in response to a similar question a few years back

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Help! My Lube Is Burning Me http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-22729-help_-my-lube-is-burning-me.html  Why can’t I find a lubricant that is paraben- and glycerin-free, as well as aloe? They are burning and irritate me. I get lots of questions about lubricant. It’s supposed to make sex more pleasurable, yet it can also cause so many problems—burning sensations, irritation

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Create Some Magic with the Magic Wand http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-22689-create-some-magic-with-the-magic-wand.html  I recently purchased the Magic Wand vibrator to use primarily on my wife. She reaches intense orgasms, but only externally. Is there anything to the G-spot? If so, will using an attachment on the Magic Wand help? If an attachment would help, which would you recommend?

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Hate Valentine’s Day? You’re Not Alone http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-22650-hate-valentine%25E2%2580%2599s-day-you%25E2%2580%2599re-not-alone.html  This column is for all the people who are not involved in a monogamous romantic relationship with the potential for marriage (if that hasn’t happened already). It’s for people who are not in a relationship at all, whether happily or unhappily. It’s for people who are hooking up, dating, friends-with-benefits or in other

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Romance Novels and Frenemies - Do pop culture relationships influence us in real life? http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-22613-romance-novels-and-frenemies-do-pop-culture-relationships-influence-us-in-real-life.html  While walking through our latest snowstorm, I was listening to Frenemies, http://veritypodcast.wordpress.com/2014/01/29/verity-episode-34-frenemies/ the Jan. 29 podcast from “Verity!” (“six women talk all things ‘Doctor

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Sex With a New Partner Causes UTIs and Yeast Infections—Help! http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-22576-sex-with-a-new-partner-causes-utis-and-yeast-infections%25E2%2580%2594help_.html With a new boyfriend and a newly found hunger for sex, I find I’m getting more UTIs and yeast infections. I’m trying to use all the advice I’ve researched and recommendations from my doc, like peeing after sex. Please give me some insight

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'Oscars of Porn' Recognize Plus-Size Performers http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-22536-oscars-of-porn-recognize-plus-size-performers.html On Saturday, Jan. 18, AVN Media Network held the 2014 AVN Awards Show at the Hard Rock Hotel and Casino in Las Vegas. Dubbed the “Oscars of adult,” the AVN Awards have highlighted
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My Ability to Have an Orgasm Changes with My Partners http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-22501-my-ability-to-have-an-orgasm-changes-with-my-partners.html  I’m a woman who has sex with men. I had sex with one person and it didn’t feel good (I didn’t have an orgasm). I had sex with another person in the same position, and I achieved an orgasm quickly...

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Help for the "Curious-Sexual" http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-22468-help-for-the-curious-sexual.html Why Can't Women Over 26 Get an HPV Vaccine? http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-22400-why-cant-women-over-26-get-an-hpv-vaccine.html  I’m a 39-year-old female. I’ve been divorced for a few years and was in a monogamous relationship for nearly 14 years before that. Recently, I started dating a great guy who disclosed to me that he has HPV in the form of genital warts. I thought, OK, no problem, there’s a vaccine for that. Then I found out that because

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Have a Poly, Poly Christmas - Navigating the holidays when you (or a loved one) is polyamorous http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-22359-have-a-poly-poly-christmas-navigating-the-holidays-when-you-%2528or-a-loved-one%2529-is-polyamorous.html  The holiday season can be both the best of times and the worst of times, especially if the way you love falls outside our very narrow socially prescribed norms. If you are kinky, queer or polyamorous, you may have created a “chosen family” of supportive, like-minded people who understand you and affirm your identity

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Using Dilators to Make Sex More Comfortable http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-22326-using-dilators-to-make-sex-more-comfortable.html  Every once in a while at Ye Olde Sex Toy Shoppe, there seems to be a distinct uptick in people coming in to ask about a specific topic. Recently, we’ve had quite a few folks seeking more information about using dilators to make vaginal penetration more comfortable. Some are sent by their health care providers

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Sex Positions for Larger or Older People http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-22285-sex-positions-for-larger-or-older-people.html  I recently ran into a colleague who had a question for me to answer: What are some good sex positions or sex position aides for people who are larger and/or older? Especially for someone with a bit of a belly? This came on the heels of a question that I received during a sex Q&A session at a conference for college students, which basically amounted to, “Do people continue to have sex when they get older

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Help For My Partner’s Erection Problems http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-22243-help-for-my-partner%25E2%2580%2599s-erection-problems.html  I’m a cis-lady sleeping with a cis-dude. [For readers unfamiliar with the terms cis- and cisgender, check out this brief definition: http://www.basicrights.org/uncategorized/trans-101-cisgender/. —Laura] My partner has real trouble getting and keeping an erection long enough for penetrative sex. We’ve talked about

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My Love-Hate Relationship with Transgender Day of Remembrance http://expressmilwaukee.com/article-22206-my-love-hate-relationship-with-transgender-day-of-remembrance.html